Child Of Venus With Child Of Mars
You two are flip sides of the same coin. Mars is the Planet of desire, while Venus symbolizes the object of desire, so you never have to worry about getting this person’s attention. But defy convention (and expectations) by playing against type. If you take the lead then a Child Of Mars will treat you like a comrade?in?arms instead of a damsel in distress.
Your Mars love interest will always be convinced you’re not as into the relationship as he or she is. It’s not a bad idea to keep this person guessing. If you make yourself too available, then you take away the challenge, and once that goes, a Mars Child’s interest isn’t far behind. At the same time, you don’t want to be too blasé. Mars Children can get quite petulant if they don’t feel that they’re number one. Find the balance between fire and ice so that the temperature is just right.
You can’t help but become more assertive living with a Mars mate. This person is always pushing to know what you think or feel, and after a while you’ll just start volunteering it regardless of whether you’ve been asked. This candor will find its way into your other associations as well, and people will start to treat you like someone to be reckoned with. You’ll also see your mate benefit from being around you. Though this person may never lose the rough edges, you’ll notice how your mate phrases requests more politely, apologizes for being out of line, and even contemplates how actions in the moment affect consequences later.
Mars parents can be demanding and provocative. This isn’t because they’re bad tempered; it’s just that they thrive on friction. A criticism, argument, or fight keeps emotions percolating and assures your Mars parent of your attention, your loyalty, and your respect. You’ll never convince this person to adopt a kinder, gentler approach. But as with a child or a dog, if you play with them for a while they’ll settle down.
The best thing you can teach your Mars kid is how to win or lose gracefully. But instead of preaching the virtues of good sportsmanship (this simply won’t translate) portray this as conduct befitting a champion. Mars Children love a good role model and there are few challenges so worth pursuing as self-mastery.
Your Mars sibling has always been very protective, racing to your defense if anyone was too critical or warily scrutinizing a date. Though flattering, it might have been awkward at times, especially if your brother or sister was much younger than you. The best thing you can do with a Mars sibling is to always make him or her feel needed.
Though you often have very opposite (and even heatedly opposed) reactions, you both want to hear the other out. You know this person is picking up on something you’ve missed. It’s your Mars friend who prevents you from making compromises that might compromise yourself.
A Mars enemy won’t recognize the merits of negotiation. Everything’s win or lose. If the dispute doesn’t matter all that much to you, throw in the towel. If it does, then try dealing with the people around your Mars enemy. They’re more likely to see reason.
You’re probably the only person who can talk to your Mars boss, which is exactly how you both like it. Your Mars boss doesn’t want to get bogged down in office politics or have to worry if a client feels coddled or not. You’re more than happy to play guardian of the gate and keeper of the agenda.
Get used to doing lots of damage control around your Mars colleague. This person can’t help blurting out what he or she “really feels” or taking professional matters too personally. Yet it’s that very same personal investment that makes your colleague’s work so outstanding.